Four Common Mistakes People Make While Dating
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Four Common Mistakes People Make While Dating

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Four Common Mistakes People Make While Dating

Dating can be great fun, but it can also be a bit of a social minefield at times. Of course you want your date to fall for the real you, but you find yourself creating a social veneer which doesn’t truly reflect your personality. The key is to relax, be honest, be warm, and try to avoid making any of these common mistakes!

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Holding Prejudices

Ahh prejudice, that natural way in which we as humans are hard-wired to judge things and people before we truly get to know them. It’s an old adage, but it’s true; you really can’t judge a book by its cover, so don’t do it while dating! We’ve evolved beyond such base instincts, and holding prejudices while dating could lead to you missing out on an unexpected but beautiful match.

Not Listening

It’s natural to be nervous when dating, and sometimes these nerves manifest themselves in extended bouts ofquickfire talking. Just remember to relax for a moment and actually listen to what your date has to say.

Ask a group of people if they are a good listeners and a fairly high proportion of them will say “yes”. Unfortunately, follow this question up by asking them to name the capital of Azerbaijan and some of them will say “yes, I am a good listener”. There are few greater turn-offs than self-obsession, so make a conscious effort to listen to your partner while dating.

Soapboxing

We’re not talking about soap or boxing. Soapboxing is when someone tries to preach to their date, whether onpolitics, sports, religion or any other topic they feel strongly about. Passion is an attractive feature, but if you have strong opinions on the austerity measures taken by the government in the wake of the 2008 financial crisis, a first date probably isn’t the best forum to express them. Try to keep it light, eh.

Moving Too Quickly

If you and your date are hitting it off really well, it’s natural that your mindset might start to shift towards future plans and the possibility of a blossoming long-term relationship. But hold on a second. Talking about having kids and whether to opt for a tracker or a fixed rate mortgage on the first few dates is a prime example of too much, too soon.

Making plans like these too early exudes desperation and also insincerity. Sure, loving bonds formed at first sight occur in the movies, but in real life they need to time to build and strengthen. So worry about them later and instead concentrate on enjoying the dating process.